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Schedule Your Free ConsulationHappy National Stepfamily Day to all who celebrate it! Amid shifting family structures, there is a good chance that you are part of a stepfamily—or know somebody who is—which makes September 16 a perfect day to celebrate.
At its heart, National Stepfamily Day is a celebration of second chances and the resilience it takes to embrace the unique challenges of blending families. Those challenges extend beyond trying to get along as “one big happy family” and into financial and legal realms where planning for the future requires as much care and sensitivity as navigating the family relationships themselves.
The Evolution of Stepfamilies
The “traditional” American family—two parents, first and only marriage for both, all children in common—is no longer the dominant household structure and has not been for decades.
With higher divorce rates, increased remarriage rates, and evolving social attitudes, today’s families are increasingly diverse.
In 2025, an estimated 41 percent of first marriages will end in divorce1. As of 2021, more than 2.4 million stepchildren live in US households, according to the US Census Bureau2.
However, even as the ranks of nontraditional families are expanding, the term stepfamily is falling out of favor. Some say that it carries a stigma and confers second-class status on stepparents and stepsiblings.
More families have adapted to embrace terms such as blended or bonus families to reflect their unique dynamics in a positive light and foster a sense of inclusion and connection. The law, however, has not evolved as quickly.
How the Law Treats Stepchildren
You may see no distinction between step- and blood relatives, but the law often does, and that can affect how your estate plan works.
Blended families are also vulnerable to unintentional disinheritance. One common scenario occurs when a stepparent leaves assets outright to their surviving spouse, the stepchild’s biological parent. If that spouse later remarries, changes their estate plan, or simply spends down the inheritance, there is no guarantee that your stepchildren, or even your own biological children, will receive what you intended them to have.
Estate Planning Steps for Including (or Excluding) Blended Family Members
Step-relations can present some of the most personally sensitive and legally complicated estate planning conversations. It is important to be clear about whether you want to include stepchildren in your plan, exclude them, or structure inheritances to balance the needs of a surviving spouse, biological children, and stepchildren.
Including Stepchildren
You may want to treat stepchildren as equals to biological children in your estate plan for the following reasons:
Strategies and Tools
If you want to be certain that your stepchildren are included in your legacy, you will need to use particular planning tools to make your wishes legally enforceable. When engaging in proactive planning, remember the following:
Excluding Stepchildren (or Managing Inheritance Indirectly)
Not every stepfamily is close, and your estate plan does not need to pretend otherwise. You may choose to exclude stepchildren from your estate plan for the following reasons:
Strategies and Tools
If you exclude stepchildren from your legacy, it is important to make that intent clear and legally binding. Consider the following when structuring your estate plan:
The Next Step: Talk to an Estate Planning Attorney
Blended families bring added complexity, and with it, more opportunities for miscommunication or disputes. Unequal treatment of biological children and stepchildren can create tension or resentment, especially when estate plans are vague, outdated, or unclear.
Keeping your plan current and talking openly with your family can help reduce conflict and ensure that your legacy is passed on the way you intend. However, these conversations can be highly emotional and nuanced. There may be thoughts you hesitate to say out loud, such as “They are not really my kids,” “My spouse will take care of them,” or “We want to treat everyone equally.”
We can help you create an estate plan that reflects your intentions—whatever they may be. Anything you tell your attorney will be kept confidential, and any estate plan documents you create can be kept private until they are needed.
Let’s take the next step and talk about how to build a plan that honors the full picture of your family and legacy.
1Robert McAllister, Divorce Rates in US 2025 – Current Trends and Analysis, NCH Stats (Dec. 11, 2024), https://nchstats.com/divorce-rates-in-us.
2National Stepfamily Day: September 16, 2023, U.S. Census Bureau (Sept. 16, 2023), https://www.census.gov/newsroom/stories/stepfamily-day.html.